That Time They Lost Jesus

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St. John’s Episcopal Church
Tallahassee, FL

Luke 2:41-52

Happy New Year and 
happy 11th day of Christmas. 
I hope all your pipers are a-piping 
and that you had a good holiday.

Every year,
right after Christmas,
the Church gives us
this gospel you just heard.

Here we are, coming down from 
all our Christmas travel and revelry 
just as Joseph and Mary 
are also coming down from Jerusalem 
and their Passover travel and revelry
when suddenly (plot twist) . . .

Jesus

goes 

missing.

I can’t help but think of Mary 
as Kate McCalister in Home Alone
the moment she sits up on the plane 
and realizes she’s left Kevin in Chicago, 

except instead of screaming “Kevin”
she screams “Jesus,”

and instead of leaving him in Chicago 
she has left him in Jerusalem, 

and instead of forgetting her son at home, 
she has, yea verily, 
lost the living Son 
of the Most High God.

So Mary and Joseph do
what any parents would do 
if they misplaced the Messiah:
they panic; 
they retrace their steps; 
they search everywhere.

But then Luke drops in a detail
that’s easy to miss
if you don’t slow down.

He says:

After

three

days,

they found him.”

Did you catch that? 
How many days?

Three days.

That detail ought to make you 
sit up a little straighter 
and lean in a little closer 
because two decades later, 
something else will happen with Jesus 

after 

three 

days.

What might that be?
Oh, just a little something 
we like to call 
the resurrection.

Luke wants you to notice 
the length of that waiting and worry 
that Joseph and Mary go through 
not just because it makes 
for suspenseful storytelling, 
but because it foreshadows 
the rest of the story 
and how God acts.

In Luke’s gospel, 
it’s almost as though 
three days is the space God uses 
before showing us 
what was true all along.

It’s a pattern:
a pattern of loss,
followed by waiting,
followed by finding.

A pattern of fear,
followed by confusion,
followed by revelation.

Three days of absence,
followed by unexpected presence.

Don’t you see? Right here 
in the waning days of Christmastide, 
Luke is already setting us up 
for the promise of Easter.

And Mary,
who stands here at the beginning,
will also be standing there at the end.

She loses Jesus 
(or so she thinks) 
at twelve years old 
just outside the gates of Jerusalem.

She will lose him again 
(or so she thinks) 
at thirty-three years old
in nearly the same place.

But here’s the turn.

When Joseph and Mary finally find Jesus,
he is not hurt.
He is not scared.
He wasn’t actually “lost” at all.

Instead, he is in the temple:
listening,
asking questions,
dwelling in his Father’s house.

Which tells us something crucial.

You see, it turns out 
the problem isn’t that 
Jesus wandered away.

The problem is that 
Mary and Joseph assumed
he would still be
where he had always been.

But by this point, 
Jesus is twelve.

In Jewish life, 
that’s a threshold age,
an “in-between” moment.
No longer a little child,
not yet a man.

And in showing us 
this threshold moment, 
Luke is showing us
that growth—real growth—
often feels like loss
before it feels like clarity.

We all know the hard  
nostalgic ache of growing up,
of leaving parts of ourselves behind
to step into what God has next for us.

Not to force too many 
pop culture references into one sermon, 
but if you spent your New Year’s Day
watching the Stranger Things finale, 
your bore witness to a beautiful representation 
of the ache I’m describing: 
that transition from childhood to adulthood 
and the nostalgic mix 
of melancholy and hope 
it inevitably brings.

It happens as we move 
from childhood to adolescence. 

It happens as we move
from adolescence to adulthood.

And it happens many more times from there 
through all the losses and changes of our lives, 
some of which we anticipate, 
many of which we don’t.

Life changes. 
We lose things. 
God stretches us. 
God grows us. 
God makes all things new.

That’s true in life. 
It’s true in the gospel.
And it’s true in the Church.

* * *

Which brings us 
to this moment 
here at St. John’s.

Next Sunday,
we begin a renewed rhythm of three services,
not because something is wrong,
but because many things at St. John’s 
are really, really right.

And yet . . .
let’s be honest.

Any time something familiar changes,
it often feels like loss
before it feels like growth.

Every threshold moment does.

Mary and Joseph didn’t know
on day one,
or day two, 
or the start of day three
what God was doing.

All they knew
was that their lives
had been disrupted.

The disciples didn’t know
on day one,
or day two, 
or the start of day three
what God was doing.

All they knew is that 
they thought their friend and teacher had died, 
and now everything had changed.

Maybe that’s where we are right now, too:
not lost,
but not yet fully oriented either.

Standing between
what we’ve known
and what we cannot yet fully describe.

* * *

Beginning next week,
you’ll have three options to choose from:

A 7:45 a.m. service 
that holds a space 
for steady, quiet, traditional faith
and an unhurried 
early start to your day.

A 9:00 a.m. service
that feels lively and familiar,
with cooing babies, 
children’s chapel,
and the kind of boisterous joy
that brings energy to our faith.

And an 11:15 a.m. service
that leans into the mystery of God
with all five senses through
incense, chant, music, and prayer. 
It’ll be heightened but not hoity-toity, 
sacred but not stuffy, 
reverent but not rigid.

Different doorways.
Same St. John’s.
Same table.
Same Jesus.

Will it take a little time
to find our footing?
Probably.

Will there be moments
when you wonder
if you’re in the right service,
at the right time,
doing this the right way?
Almost certainly.

Luke doesn’t tell us that Mary 
immediately understands everything 
right off the bat.

He tells us she ponders.

She holds the moment.
She carries it.
She stays with the mystery
long enough for things to grow.

And maybe that is the invitation for us, too.

We know whose house this is.

And we know
that when we seek him, 
we find that he has been here
the whole time.

So come next week, 
and come all the weeks after.

Come and try on a service
that may not be the one you’ve always known.

Come early, 
or come later.

Come ready for quiet, 
or come hungry for music and movement.

Come and give yourself—and one another—permission,
and in time, you’ll know where your heart settles.

You don’t have to get it right the first week.
Mary didn’t.
Neither did the disciples.

But here on this day, 
in the light of this gospel 
where the hope of Christmas 
and the promise of Easter join hands, 
trust in this:

trust that the same Jesus 
who was found 
inside the temple as a boy 
and outside the tomb as a man
is the very same Jesus
who will be right here 
waiting for you.

In this place.
At this table.
In this beautiful, 
faithful, 
growing, 
changing church 
where deep roots, 
true belonging, 
and abundant grace 
are always to be found.

Amen.